Why Kids Don't Tell Their Parents That They're Being Bullied
69Okay, I get it, most parents want their children to be happy and healthy. When you yell at them to tell you what's going on, you're doing it for their benefit. Because if they tell you the truth, and you deal with it yourself, the situation can easily be handled, right?
Wrong.
When bullies are going about their everyday bully-business, tossing kids into the dumpster, torturing the guy in the pink jacket cause he's gay, they expect that kid not to run home crying to mommy or daddy. Why? Because dear friend, that makes it harder for them. If the kid goes and tells their parents, eleven out of ten times, that kid's getting "snitch" written on their forehead, and shoved face-first into the nearest pile of dog feces. When someone's bullying other kids, it's usually because they have major problems at home. So, say bully's name is "Joe", and victim's name is "Bob". This is usually what goes down:
Joe throws pinecone at Bob -- Bob tells parents -- Bob's parents confront Joe's parents -- Joe's parents throw beer bottle at Joe -- Joe throws FLAMING pinecone at Bob.
So yeah, unless poor Bob wants burn marks on his face, he's keeping his mouth shut. Don't blame Bob for it, that'll just lead to him resenting you. Bullying is something every kid eventually goes through, and they come out stronger and wiser because of it. Unless they're coming home bloody and bruised, I'd suggest baking them a cookie and leaving it alone.
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Maybe not, although I'd be okay with throwing them at a few of the screaming kids outside.
I know that bullying is a very serious issue. Dr Phil had a show last week on it. A beautiful young boy (and I know others) killed himself over it. From a young person's view what can a bystander do to help? Does it help for bystanders to step in? I have heard that is the new approach. It all makes me feel sick that kids can be so cruel at such a young age.
You have chosen an important subject for your first Hub. That is great.
Welcome home. You belong here, Katy. This is real food for thought. If you don't get a lot of hits and comments, I'll be surprised. Well done.
Hyphenbird
Depending on the situation, another person their age that sees and steps in can help stop it. A teenage boy at the local high school was being bullied for having a crush on someone's girlfriend (I won't go into specifics what the bullies did), and my friend stepped in and helped him. Thank you for your kind feedback, it's greatly appreciated.
Twilight
Thank you for the warm welcome and friendly comments, it is wonderful having my work appreciated.
You have written about an important topic with precision, insight and a dash of humor.
mckbirdbks
Thank you
Love the FLAMING pinecone image. Right on!
True story of me "sort of" getting bullied which illustrates the surprising benefit of fighting back even if you don't think at first there was any such thing (benefit).
June, 1961. I'd graduated high school but was still 17, so we're going to count this, 'kay?
1. Fred (that's me) gets drunk, rides around in back seat of drunk buddy's car.
2. Ron comes along with bully who wants Fred's friend to fight. Friend is coward-smart; hangs onto steering wheel with death grip. Bully gives up on trying to drag him out to beat on him. No damage to friend.
3. Inspired by up-front action, Ron climbs into back seat and pops Fred in face. Fred is so drunk he literally cannot lift his hands to defend himself.
4. Bullies leave. Fred exists vehicle and hurls. Sobers up some. Realizes this insult/assault must not go unanswered.
5. Following day, Fred takes off work, hitchhikes to town, lets it be known he's looking for Ron.
6. Ron and buddies arrive. All troop up behind schoolhouse. Fisticuffs ensue.
7. Since Ron is a bit drunk (and Fred is now stone cold sober), Ron is getting butt handed to him. Surrogate fat Jack steps in. Gets Fred down. Farts in Fred's face.
8. Dance in town, one week later. Ron is gone for good, back to the Army, bye-bye Ron. Fred thinks he'll have to do everything all over again with Jack, but Jack actually apologizes.
Fred not run to Dad; Dad would whip Fred's butt all over again for being a wimp.
No flaming pinecones in story...only flaming butt cheeks, had anyone held a lighter near Jack's rear.
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That bully kitty photo is priceless!
Ghost32
Thank you for that story. And my mom loved the kitty photo too. lol
Becky Katz Level 8 Commenter 7 months ago
A very interesting take on bullies. I understand why you don't want me to yell at the bullies. Let's throw flaming pine cones at their parents. No, maybe not.